If you are thinking about purchasing and using Dan Becket’s popular Ejaculation Freedom program read this first. Because as good as the course is, it’s not for everyone.
First up, if you’re not yet familiar with the Ejaculation Freedom program by Dan Becket, here’s a quick rundown. It is a downloadable program to help men treat premature ejaculation through a series of exercises and “re-programming techniques” that are claimed to help most men who complete the course last 20 minutes longer in bed.
Sounds too good to be true right? Well, it may be for some men. But for guys who can apply themselves and are apple to complete the exercises, this is a great way to cheaply and privately extend your ejaculatory latency; which is just a fancy way of saying that you’ll last longer in bed.
On the site, this article on the techniques men can use to last longer in bed gives a good rundown of what the program does. If you haven’t read it already it’s well worth the read.
Who Shouldn’t Use The Ejaculation Freedom Program?
While most guys who suffer from premature ejaculation are going to get a lot from Ejaculation Freedom, it’s probably not the best choice for some men.
Men With Religious Limitations
While the guide is very professionally written, a few of the exercises involve what most would consider a form of masturbation or self-stimulation. So if you are a devoutly religious person belonging to a faith that absolutely prohibits any form of self-stimulation you may not be able to complete all the training exercises.
You’ll still get a lot out of the other parts of the guide. For example, the meditative and visualization training (which may well be even more powerful) will be fine. The same goes for the Kegel training and sexual technique modules.
Guys With Limited Privacy
For some of the exercises, you will need some privacy where you can relax, focus and feel confident that you won’t be disturbed. If you’re a guy living alone you’ll likely have ample opportunity to complete the exercises which took me about 20 minutes, 4 or 5 days a week when I used the program.
If you are a married guy, perhaps with kids it may be more challenging to find some “alone time” where you know you won’t be disturbed. If you have a supporting wife or partner that can definitely help, but let’s be honest, a lot of guys are going to want to complete the program in secret due to the unfortunate stigma that is sometimes attached to premature ejaculation.
You’ll Need To Be Self-motivated
Most guys are going to be fine with this and have ample motivation to complete all the training modules. After all, they are not overly difficult or challenging and are actually pretty fun. Plus the rewards of being able to have enjoyable sex and satisfy your partner should be more than enough to keep you motivated for the 4 to 6 weeks it will take you to complete all the training.
However, if for whatever reason you are the type of guy who lacks self-discipline and finds it hard to complete things then you may be better of seeing a coach or sexual counselor face to face to give you that extra motivation and support.
How Does The Ejaculation Freedom program work?
Now let’s get into the nuts and bolts of how the program actually works, what exercises you’ll be doing, and how long it will be until you start improvements.
Dan does a very good job of explaining this on his site so I won’t go into that much detail here. but I will focus on the parts that worked for me the most and my personal experiences completing the program.
At the start of the program, you’ll be encouraged to make some seemingly simple mindset changes about the way you approach sex. In hindsight, this now seems like basic stuff, but unexpectedly it is one of the things that helped me the most.
The first change was to not look at me PE as something wrong with me. And instead, view ejaculation control as a skill I was about to learn. It’s a really small shift in thinking but it helped me a lot.
The second shift was to not think of my ejaculation as this force or pressure that builds up and I have to hold back. But as a simple function that I could learn to control. Again it’s a small shift in thinking which really helped and prepared me for the actual training.
I would say that the turnback training is the part that helped me the most. It’s a series of edging exercises but it’s really different from the traditional types of edging that you see everywhere. Once I got to the point where I could “turn back” once during sex it wasn’t long before I could do it over and over.
These were also really useful. I found that I could use these during sex and often minutes would go by in a sort of “lost in the moment” state where I wouldn’t even be worried or thinking about ejaculating early. These visualizations allowed me to link up my mind with the new techniques.
Some of the things that helped me the most were the small and almost random tips that Dan would throw in when describing a situation, technique, or position. For example, we would say “if you a losing control here, try circling your tongue around the roof of your mouth 4 times” or “at this point put your hands on her upper back and run them over the tip of her shoulder blades while focusing in”. They almost always seemed to work. It’s amazing how such a small tip or change can sometimes make all the difference.
Will You Really Be Lasting 20 minutes every time?
On the Ejaculation Freedom website, Dan makes the bold claim that on completion of the program “all men will be able to last 20 minutes or more during sex”. Let’s be honest, this sounds too good to be true, especially for you guys who experience severe premature ejaculation.
In my case, I was able to get to this point after about 6 weeks. However, I don’t always choose to go this long as I can usually bring my partner to orgasm sooner than this. I found that after finishing the Ejaculation Freedom program that I stopped thinking about time during sex. However, I am always present and notice my arousal levels as they go up and down during sex (Dan calls this “riding the wave”).
Another thing I noticed is that after a finished the program and began lasting longer my orgasms became much longer and intense. I wasn’t really expecting this by I must say that it’s a great side effect.
Is It Worth The Money
I just checked and the program is currently discounted to $49 (Which is a lot less than I paid for it a while back) which makes it one of the best value options. It’s cheap, you can do it in private on your own, and it’s just really easy to get started. So, in my opinion, the money probably won’t even be a consideration for most guys who are forever missing out on great sex due to their premature ejaculation.
If you decide to see a sex counselor for a series of consultations (which is also recommended) you are likely to be paying $1000 dollars and up, so I think this is a very cheap way to tackle your premature ejaculation.
Are There Better Programs For Premature Ejaculation?
The other books on premature ejaculation that I have purchased were not in the same league as Ejaculation Freedom. The only superior alternative I could imagine would be to find a good sex counselor who specializes in premature ejaculation (or try to book sessions with dan himself).
There are some good general books on sex and relationships that I recommend, and that may also help your premature ejaculation somewhat. But they lack the detail and specific training exercises that you’ll find in the EF program.
Where To Download Ejaculation Freedom By Dan Becket?
The course can be downloaded directly from EjaculationFreedom.com. The Ejaculation Freedom book is a PDF file and can be saved to your computer or smart file. It looks like they no longer sell a hard copy physical book as I’m guessing most guys would prefer to download everything these days. After all, it’s not the kind of book you’d have lying around on your coffee table or prominently displayed on the bookshelf.
Here’s the main website: ejaculationfreedom.com
Here’s the download page: ejaculationfreedom.com/download/
Good luck. And if you do finish the program please let me know how it went.
Mark Isud is a coach and writer focused on helping men have better relationships, through self-understanding and improvement. He was able to defeat his severe premature ejaculation and now helps men learn how they can do the same using the same methods that worked for him.